Hey all. Thanks for stopping by. This is a two part thing as I look to understand a couple of things.
Please remember to respect each other when replying. And please, be honest. I'm gonna love you anyway. I'm searching for understanding, so I need REAL feedback.
First, my boys and I were just speaking at length about the way we have been treated by black people, specifically black women. We all have degrees, are financially stable ane working, no criminal records or kids. I state these things because I've heard many black women say that these are some KEY qualities they are looking for.
My boys and I have also heard many times, "You're not hood enough". Or, "You're not black enough".
So, I'm wondering, as we all are...Why do you expect persons with the above mentioned KEY qualities to be "hood" or "ghetto"...and, what does that really mean? What is so bad about the way I speak or behave?
Forgive me/us, but I cannot be a successful salesman if I speak to my customers using 'slang'. I wouldn't have a good employment situation if I was behaving like my brethren in the hood and thus, had a criminal record.
Truth--besides my mother, I am the only one in my "living" family who hasn't been arrested/in jail. I grew up in South Jamaica...I fought a lot. I played w/all the kids who ended up going in a different direction. My point-I have the "hood" pedigree. I cannot rid myself of it if I tried. Alas, when I'm in the hood, EVERYONE, including me, knows that I don't "fit" or "belong". I open my mouth and speak the English language properly, and I become a target. Most people don't try me, but that's only cuz I'm 6'4", 300 lbs. Not an easy win no matter where I'm from.
Ladies, do I need to go to work during the day, and then hang on the corner at night to fit what you're looking for? Do I need to experience the criminal justice system to "earn some stripes" so that you can be comfortable with me? They call me "uppity", or "too good for us" when I speak. I'm not better than you or you or you. I like getting paid. I work with company officer's and I've adapted to the way they speak. Does that take away from me being shot at, having guns in my face, fights in and out of school growing up?
My women...what do you want? We can't be both.
Yes, I know there are many women experiencing the same problem with black men. But this is about us now. We'll talk about the other side later. :-)
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Okay, second part. I've recently noticed a lot of animosity from black women. And it's been because my girlfriend is white. Yeah, that topic. What I want to know is, why is it such a problem for black women that my girlfriend is white?
I'd like you to understand my thinking, some of which ties into the first question. You don't want me. Why do you care that someone else does? White black or whatever.
I mean, people were hating on my last girlfriend and she was Puerto-Rican. I thought PR's were treated like light-skinned, bilingual sisters. :-)
I really don't get it. You, personally, have zero interest in me, personally. You don't find me attractive, I'm too arrogant, my views on male/female relationships don't agree with yours--any number of reasons why you don't want me. But, you don't like that I'm with someone because of her color.
I want to understand why. Maybe some of you can help me.
